Living Behind A Mask

Do the people close to you know who you are without your mask?

I have lived my life wearing a mask my family have no idea of what goes in my head, most of the time I have no idea either.  If you asked my family they would say that I was very good at talking to people and settling problems, that I could get tough if needed but the truth is that it actually makes me physically sick in my gut and very anxious. I am always trying to make sure that there is peace and no conflict. I can not stand people not getting on with each other, I don’t give my opinion to people in case I am wrong and look stupid even when my gut says do it. It is tiring!

When married I blended in with my then husbands personality and lost myself being a mother and wife and all things involved in rising a family. Then the marriage broke down and now the kids have nearly all left home, I realise that I have not a freaking clue on who the hell I am and I am scared shitless about if I can actually live life as myself.

It has taken a few years to even get to this point, where I can finally get what is in my head out of it. Learning to go with my gut is still an issue with me, only because of my insecurity on what I am capable of the FEAR that tries to rule my life. This is what keeps stopping me from living the life that I want but I keep subconsciously sabotaging one way or another.

This is all just shit that I have created in my world to try and survive, now I know my subconscious is a big place that hides crap that can makes us only half live. It is sort of like a huge hospital that you need to find your way around. You need guidance, if possible a map and even then you don’t see all the unseen stimuli that is making us react to.

If you would like to find out a little more about what your personality might be just pop in and do the free test below from Moving Forward Australia. I am a Type 9 on the Enneagram and learning about this has helped with my growth and an understanding of the people in my life and around me.

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Personalities What Drives You What Holds You Back

The Enneagram is a tool to help people learn what drives them, what can get you stuck in life and most importantly why you react to situations. If you would like to take a free test to find out what personality type you might be take it HERE.

Goodbye 2016, Hello 2017

 

The start of a new year always brings about a whole new mindset for at least one day 🙂

A lot of people have these things that they are going to fix this year, how can you fix something when you don’t know the reason behind it or how to deal with the emotions that seem to rule us in the heat of the moment. If you said yes to any of these things then have a look at Moving Forward Australia and actually put into action what you would like to change in your life, do it for yourself and live your life. Take the free personality test and learn about what makes you tick 🙂

Cheers

Kate 🙂

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Do You Know Your Boundaries In a Relationship?

What do you think of when you hear the word boundary? The outer limits of the school yard, where you aren’t allowed to go to. Physically this is true and we can usually see these boundaries and avoid them because they mean something we are not allowed to do or go to or be at. How do we know what the emotional boundaries are in a relationship? Some we automatically know, like do not kiss someone when you are both in a monogamous relationship, ask before you take something, don’t lie. These seem easy simple ones except there is a but in here……What one person thinks is ok the other one might not and unless you come together and talk about it then boundaries will be crossed and confusion can reign.

What one person thinks is ok the other one might not and unless you come together and talk about it then boundaries will be crossed and confusion can reign, especially when different personalities come into play

When a woman says FINE then usually it isn’t, that is a given in this day and age if you haven’t worked that out you had better start thinking hard. The Ross and Rachel “we were on a break” is a brilliant example of two people taking one sentence in different ways.

If there are major issues that arise you may need to write down your boundaries, that way both parties can see it read it and know that when you overstep that mark there will be consequences. Communication is the key, some are harder than others to communicate with, when you know the personality types then you get a deeper understanding.

If you would like to learn more about yourself and relationships go to Moving Forward Australia and start living your life and put some boundaries in, it will take a load off when you work out why we do things and react the way we do. 

 

 

 

The Day That Changed My Daughters Life

I know the title seems a little dramatic, but with a little background knowledge on our past 2 years this day ended up being huge and we had no idea how much it would change our lives forever.

One of my daughters had on the outside a fun bubbly personality that her friends saw but home she was shut in her room and living a nightmare that she couldn’t see a way out of.

It was that horrible black space that they can only see one way out and that terrified me. We had been to all the professionals and they helped a little and she came good for awhile but would sink back into that deep pit of depression and hopelessness.

A few of my friends had told me about Moving Forward Australia and I had signed myself up to do the 3-day workshop to help with my negative thinking and self-sabotaging ways. Then they suggested my daughter do it as well with me. She is quiet and extremely shy wouldn’t say boo to anybody, I thought she isn’t going to do this. She surprised me and said yes, well the first day was full of nerves for both of us and we went home full of what the next day would bring.

The next day I left the room while she talked and got things out, but the girl I left in there was the quiet, sullen, dark, depressed, no hope left on earth. When I came back in I couldn’t believe my eyes….it makes me tear up just thinking about it now. She was standing in the room with all these people around her and smiling, talking and looking people in the eye.

I thank god everyday that we did the Diluting the Iceberg Workshop because I totally believe it helped save my girls life.

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